Hey everyone, I’m looking for some outside perspective because I feel stuck. I work in a family business with around 30 people. From the outside, it looks like a stable operation, but on the inside it’s chaotic and often hostile. The environment can be borderline verbally abusive, and the owners (my parents) don’t really know how to separate personal from professional. Boundaries don’t exist, and the stress bleeds into everything. I started seeing a therapist just to get my head straight about this situation and I even have him listen to recorded conversations to which he immidiatley said to me, " I wasn't expecting this level of shouting and hostility at all. What's keeping you there?" to which I responded with some pros and he mentioned some cons that are mentioned later on in this post. My dad runs things in a very old-school way. He does everything on Excel and still relies on accounting software that’s at least 10–15 years old. He only recently agreed to change after realizing that one lightning strike or computer failure could wipe everything out (it happened and it almost did only the hard drive survived by a miracle). He doesn’t trust others with responsibilities, so whenever I suggest improvements, like streamlining products or setting sales targets, I get resistance. On top of that, when staff are missing, I end up filling in. I’ll be doing warehouse work, deliveries, or receiving goods instead of focusing on actual improvements. It feels like I spend most of my time firefighting. I also feel undervalued financially. For the position, stress, their disrespect and responsibilities I carry, I’m not paid nowhere near enough to support my family, especially with a baby on the way. To be fair, one of the only real “pros” is flexibility. If I need to run emergency errands or attend hospital visits, I can make that work. But I’m starting to realize I may not be weighing the cons heavily enough. The constant stress, hostility, lack of boundaries, and low pay are taking a toll on me emotionally and mentally. With a newborn on the way, I’m worried this will spill into my parenting and home life. One small note to also consider is that I am the last remaining sibling to be working in the business as all other 3 left due to the same reasons. They always tell us "one day this will all be yours" but like .. when .. whats your exit stratagy ? All these questions are still to be answered but to be honest I don't feel like gambling away anymore of my years. As siblings no-one ever got paid close or more then the highest paid employees let alone a % at the end of the year from the profits, and ultimatley I lost all intrest in the business aswell and feel completely burnt out. So I wanted to ask: * Has anyone been through a similar family business situation where the older generation refuses to adapt and the environment is toxic? * How do you know when the “pro” of flexibility isn’t worth the emotional and mental cost? * How do you react when faced with verbal abuse? * Do you feel an emotional disconnect, and if at all how did you try to mend it? * My relationship with my parents is currently non-existing, would you even try to mend it ? * At what point do you step back for the sake of your own health and family? Any advice, stories, or outside perspective would really help me put things into perspective.